Aren’t all marriages supposed to feel that way? Like you were hand-picked for each other? Well, it doesn’t happen that way for all of us and when it does, sometimes it doesn’t last.

I was married for 13 years, found out I hadn’t met Prince Charming, and lived through a marriage that was at times destructive. I needed to take a step back and consider my options.

I Had the Courage to Leave When It Was Toxic

Knowing it was over and knowing that it was important to move on was a great lesson for me. Taking action and ending this harmful relationship was the best thing I could do for myself and my children. When I left, it wasn’t just me. I had six children, ages 3 – 11, to think about and care for too.

I saw in them the same anxiety and anger that I had. It was like looking in a mirror. They were clinging to me and not able to function well. Their self-esteem had been shattered.

I saw my world and my children’s lives falling apart so I decided to step it up.
I decided to empower myself and find a way to heal myself and my children from all that we had experienced. I found that there were certain exercises, questions, tools and techniques I could use to renew myself and prepare for the healthy relationship I wanted to build.

The truth was that I didn’t want to make the same mistakes I made the first time. I wanted to know that I could do it differently and find the love I wanted for me and my children.
As I searched through books and programs for divorcees, I noticed that there were certain processes that were more helpful than others. I started working with Growth Climate and their programs. I found that their tools and techniques work well for almost everyone. I decided to support their work and became a Growth Climate Relationship Specialist.

I began to feel that I needed to write a book that would provide this guidance to so many who needed it. I knew that these exercises could help divorcees get what they wanted: a healed spirit and renewed hope that they could stop marrying mistakes.
So many people go through divorce and don’t consider as much as they could what’s happening to the children in their lives. They are so engulfed in their own experience that the kids and their needs often don’t get addressed adequately. Maybe this sounds too familiar to you.

This is so important because it makes a huge difference for the children of divorcees to have healthy parents. Statistics show that three years after a divorce children often start doing drugs, getting in fights and having problems in school.

I found that after I did the exercises and worked through the information I put in Stop Marrying Mistakes, I watched my kids become very confident, well-adjusted, and high functioning children. They understood the pluses of the divorce and were able to move on with high self-esteem and love.