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“After a divorce husbands and wives deal with many crucial issues that impact how they deal with their ex-spouse, their children, themselves, and any new relationships that they start. Author Lisa J. Peck, working with Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Kevin Skinner, has written an exceptional guide to help you rebuild, strengthen, and enhance all of your relationships. With a nationwide divorce rate of 50% this book will have a positive impact on many, many people. Use the material in this book to start you on a path to healthy, happy, and loving relationships. It will show you how to “Stop Marrying Mistakes.”
-Kevin Decker, Relationships Coach, Bestselling Author of “Romantic Antics” and Host of The Inside Romance Show
A Taste of the Divorce Advice in Stop Marrying Mistakes
Lisa J. Peck found herself in an abusive relationship and sought the help of Growth Climate, a program developed by therapists that teaches how to take control of your life using principles. Peck learned alot in the process of turning her life around.
Children and Divorce Help
Kids are a real issue for most marriages, divorces, and remarriages. Few people plan to become the ‘evil’ stepmother or father. Often the parents involved create their own worst nightmare by being hurtful or standoffish. Lisa J. Peck created the The Ten Commandments of Step-Parenting to ease emotional hurts and let the child be the child.
Here are the first five steps to helping children:
- Give the child personal space
- Be yourself around them
- Set limits and enforce them
- Allow outlets for feelings for both children and biological parents
- Expect ambivalence from the child. They need time.
You and Divorce Support
The four fundamentals of emotional growth in loneliness after divorce:
- Understand that every person has his/her own climate or mood.
- Realize that the mood a person feels and displays will affect how others treat that person.
- Realize that people affect each other. A person who is surrounded by negative people will suffer more stress and is much more likely to become depressed.
- Understand each person has inner and outer support systems. The success and positive people support themselves. An easy way to support oneself is to be surrounded by positive people.
Three crucial steps to healing:
- Mourn the loss of a relationship and acknowledge the pain that happens because of the divorce.
- Nourish the mind and the body. (It is far too easy to punish or neglect the body when the spirit is not happy but this will only perpetuate the bad feelings.)
- Evaluate aspirations and passions. Reconnect with the real you. Find the inner child. A great help here is for someone to ask “What did I enjoy doing as a child?” Connecting with old dreams is NOT silly, it’s powerful.
A common problem attached to relationship problems of every level is depression. If a person can get excited with their life and future possi, it is much easier to move on.
Steps of depression and how it happens:
- Self worth struggle – every child is born with a sense of self worth. Humans believe they are valuable as a person until told otherwise.
- Instinct wrestle – Someone thinks they are not as good as they had thought or hoped.
- Choice – In the end, each person chooses to believe or to doubt themself.
Self worth comes from being productive. People who get involved in things are able to adjust more easily from broken relationships. The mind can hold multiple thoughts but there is only room for one feeling at a time, therefore by helping another person, the first will be carried away from their own problems. This can be a ton of fun, AND it’s rewarding!