Many think that people who have been divorced should be good at choosing a mate. After all, if you have been divorced, you should have a clear idea of what you do and don’t want in a spouse, right? Wrong! In many instances, divorced people are prone to poor mate selection. Why? There are many reasons:

a. Loneliness

b. Hurried marriage

c. Incompatibility

d. Mental instability (self, other person, or both)

e. Too many unresolved issues from a previous marriage

f. Lack of self-esteem

g. Feeling as though they need a parent for their kids

h. Financial troubles

i. A need for the societal acceptance of being married

j. Fear of being alone

k. Fear of getting to know themselves