The first fundamental rule of growth is understanding your own climate, your own story.
People can create a safe a climate within themselves. Consider meditation: The objective of meditation is ot help a person find the place where an inner climate of peace resides. If we can find the place of inner peace, the inner-self is nurtured from the inside out.
The following three assignments are designed to help you identify your inner climate. Take your itmeand seriously consider the implications of your answers. It has been my experience that in the early stages of divorce it is hard to find peace. If this is the case for you, I recommend you focus on the assignment.
Finding Peace in your life begins with finding peace within yourself.
Assignment 2A: How often do you feel at peace with yourself?
b. 3-5 times daily
c. Once a week
d. 2-3 times a month
Assignment 2B: Explain your answer from above. Write down the last time you felt inner peace. Describe the type of climate you were in when you felt it. Include where you were, who you were with, why you were there, what time of day it was, and your purpose for being there. If you can’t remember a time, describe what you think it would look like, feel like, and be like. What feelings would you have?
Assignment 3: Make a list of things you can do to creat a safe climate for yourself. They don’t have to be hard. It could be a simple as taking ahot bath or sppreciating the sunrise as you drive to work. After you construct the list, go back through and pick at least three things tha tyou’re going to start doing immediately to create a safe climate. Once you have picked three, write when you’re going to make them happen. Be specific: say Tuesday at 7:30 a.m. This lodges the information in your mind. Put this appointment with yourself in your calender and schedule it.
Taking time for yourself is an important part of creating a safe climate. This builds trust wihtin yourslef tha tyou will do what you say to keep yourself healthy, grounded, and safe.
If you make a commitment that you’re going to start doing things to keep yourself safe, you need to honor and keep that commitment, or you will not trust yourself.